Don't deny other people their things just because your things haven't come yet.
I have a friend i have not seen in
8yrs, let’s call him Mutwiri. Although I have not seen him in 8yrs; now and
there when we find time, we video call and catchup. For the past 10yrs Mutwiri
has struggled with getting a job as well educated as he is. He had started
developing a bitter attitude towards life and everyone around him.
In 2019 during a phonecall, he said,
"Nich, why is it that I can help others get a job, but I can't help
myself?"... I think said to him, "Ndugu, life is designed in such a
way that we are all bridges to help each other cross". There is no"
self-made" person. You can tell a friend to apply for a bursary you
applied for, and they end up taking them instead of you, it means you were a
bridge for your friend to cross. You can tell your friend about an internship,
both apply, and they take him instead of you, you were a bridge for them to
cross. You can tell a friend about a job, both apply, and they hire him instead
of you, you were just a bridge for them to cross. You can tell a friend to apply
for business funding, both apply, and they get the funding instead of you, you
were bridge for them to cross. You will get to a point where you start
questioning why is it that others are making it through you, but you seem not to
be making progress.
I understood through some of my
struggles in my early 20s that it is possible to help others get ahead while
you struggle. There is no "Self-made" success. We all are connected
to other people's destinies somehow. Not that your dreams need a specific
somebody to succeed, but somebody holds the keys, and it is up to you to try and
find the right key holder. If we stopped buying coke, can coke be successful?
Can the people who work at coke have jobs? If we decided to stop using
Facebook, can Mark be successful? Life is weird in such a way that your junior
in high school can be on the panel of people that interview you and decide your
future. Dreams delayed are not dreams denied. And there is no way on earth that
your blessings can go to someone else so keep clapping for those that have
crossed through you.
I know a lady who convinced her
friends to apply for nursing college in 2010, they took her friends and not
her. She cried so hard because she did not understand that she was the bridge
for them to cross. In 2011 someone offered her funds to go study Physiotherapy
and she is now enjoying her career. Your turn is coming.
2020
in October Mutwiri got a job in his field after years of trying and last night
he video called me from his brand-new house to show me.
